BAD FIGHT vs GOOD FIGHT | ||
from The Good Fight by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott | ||
BAD FIGHT | GOOD FIGHT | |
GOAL | Winning the Fight | Resolving the Fight |
TOPIC | Surface Issues | Underlying Issues |
EMPHASIS | Personalities & Power Struggles | Ideas & Issues |
ATTITUDE | Controversial & Defensive | Cooperative & Receptive |
MOTIVATION | Shift Blame | Take Responsibility |
MODE | Belittle | Respect |
MANNER | Egocentric | Empathetic |
DEMEANOR | Self-Righteous | Understanding |
SIDE EFFECT | Escalation of Tension | Easing of Tension |
RESULT | Discord | Harmony |
BENEFIT | Stagnation & Distance | Growth & Intimacy |